I want to clarify the why I write about really hard, deep stuff in my life. First and foremost, I believe God has called me to do so. Why? I believe that there are places I have been, things I’ve struggled with, sins I have committed, things that have been done to me…all of which by the grace of God…I am slowly but surely seeing myself more as an overcomer than a victim of my choices or others choices for me. That’s good news!

Secondly, while people may disqualify me because of my past failures and blatant sins, my Jesus finds me totally qualified to tell you what He has done for my soul.

Thirdly, if I’m vulnerable and authentic about my story, then maybe you will feel safe enough to stick your hidden face or your masked face out there and talk about your hard things too. Don’t worry…I’m not necessarily meaning in public (I’ll leave that to God as to whether you do that or not) but would you be willing to talk to someone who has been there and done that? Don’t think for one minute that I have arrived. My best friend will tell you I struggle deeply but I always end up at Jesus’ feet…maybe a little disheveled and maybe more exhausted than I really needed to be but that IS progress my precious friend! ANY progress is good news to my heart and I want that for you.

I’m want freedom y’all…For YOU and for ME..after all, God did send His one and only Son, Jesus, to save the world, not to condemn it and He said in John 10:10 that “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” We are not talking prosperity here people. We are talking freedom in Christ that produces the fruit of the Spirit

 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, ²³ gentleness, self-control; (Galatians 5:22-23).

Whew! I need help from Jesus to accomplish that task AND He gave us each other to help us along in this journey of living the New Life.

I want to help you. I still have my struggles and will until Jesus returns but God is changing me from the inside out and He does it in His timing. But can I get on board with where He is working? Can I even see? Do I trust Him? Do I trust that He is actually working on me?  

What keeps you in this vicious cycle of doing the same things over and over again? Do you struggle with depression, shame, anxiety, rejection, fear, addiction?…the list could go on and on.

What is keeping you in this state of STUCK?

I have been there sister, and I still got my stuff but I’m working each day in renewing my mind and drawing near to God. I have also been given a friend who is so very patient with me and has never, not once, given up on me. That’s a gift of grace from Jesus right there.

All these things I’ve mentioned so far (and I’m sure I forgot some) is the reason I became a Certified Christian Life Coach. I don’t care much for titles anymore but I want you to know that, not only do I have maximum training in my own life experiences, I actually took classes to meet the requirements of being the real deal in the eyes of you…Virginia…the United States, the world…LOL! Just know that I got my ducks in a row, okay?

I want to help you get unstuck. I want to point you to Jesus and help you figure out what keeps you from Him because I promise you friend, He loves you so very much.

I am professional…yet very laid back…I do not want anyone to walk away from me feeling like “a project.” Unfortunately, I have had people tell me they feel like I have treated them like that and it breaks my heart. It was a blindspot. I truly believed that if I said something at just the right time and in just the right way with just the right tone…that person would change.

But that change I wanted in those people…that is God’s job…not mine.

Now I want to clarify why I’m NOT writing…

1 – For you to worry that I’m stuck in the past. I have had six years of extensive counseling to make sure that is not a place I’m in. Speaking about my past is something I will do here so you can see that I really do understand what you may or may not be going through. This will also help you to decide if I’m the right person for you to talk to…or not.

2 – For you to feel sorry for me, consider me a victim or pity me. I promise you…God wastes nothing. Though my story is sometimes very painful, make no mistake…God uses ALL of my messes…whether I made them or not…for my good. Praise you Lord Jesus!

3 – To tear down anyone. In order to tell my story, there are some that may know who or what I’m speaking about. I will never use names but I will tell my story. REMEMBER: For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. (Ephesians 6:12). Yes, people have hurt me but I have either forgiven, choosing to forgive every day, or trying to forgive…I got struggles but my heart is to be a true ambassador for Christ that He has called all of His children to be. I want complete forgiveness to flow from my heart because I have been forgiven so much…It’s mind-blowing to be honest. I certainly didn’t do anything to deserve it and that is why I am such a scandalous grace girl.

4 – If you need help, you now have a resource to call or message. Between Facebook, Instagram and my website, there is a way to reach me! Please do not hesitate!

For coaching, I do offer a free 20-minute consult call for us to test the waters and see if I’m the person you want to coach you or not. I will not be offended if I’m not the person and I will be thrilled if I am. That is the whole point of the free 20-minute consult call.

My passion is to help women struggle well through the disappointments of life.

Coming up on my future blog posts, I will be discussing issues such as abandonment, neglect, shame, humiliation, guilt, embarrassment, jealousy, unbelief, fear, addiction, adultery, being hurt by the church, forgiveness, rape, abortion, fear of man, death, believing lies instead of the truth, and so much more…

What are my dreams? Besides helping as many women as I can, I pray a book will emerge from these blogs that can be available as a resource to help people who are hurting and struggling AND I am also praying about a podcast (which if my bestie is reading this…she is dancing for joy right now!)

So there you have it…why I’m writing my story, why I’m not writing and why I became a life coach.

I loves you sweet peeps and I want God’s very best for you (and me)!

Mercy & Grace,

Debbie